I  made it clear  from  the  start of our group meetings
that although  I   had  some  knowledge,  I  was  no expert.
Dreams  are  the  real  teacher;  I   was  simply  trying   to
facilitate   the  process.  I  continually   asked   the  group
members to  say  what they  wanted  to do  or to speak up
when   something  didn't  sit   right  with  them. Since  we
were   all  fairly   new  to  this,  everyone  could  have  an
influence on our directions.
     It went slowly at first. Sharing dreams  was strange for
us  and  it felt awkward and uncomfortable. Some dreams
were embarrassing, so we decided that no one should tell
a  dream  unless they felt like trusting  the  group  with  it.
Some  preferred  to  tell  their  dream  without  the group
commenting  on  it. But   the  big  struggle   was  learning
to discuss a  dream  without forcing interpretations on it;
to  work  on   understanding   it   without  diminishing  its
dynamic, living quality.
     Mostly  we  learned  through   the  simple  process of
experiencing   the  dreams.  It  was  a  major  step  to feel
comfortable  saying,  "I   have  no  idea   what   this dream
means, but let's look into it; let's spend some time with it
and see what comes of it." Still, the results varied greatly.
There were ups and downs,  people came and  went  from
the group. Often it felt as though  we were just wandering
around  in  the  dark.  But  slowly  we  were  feeling more
comfortable  with  our  dreams  and  learning  from  them
more and more.

Will You Share Your Dreams?

    Dreaming is a  private act. There are ways  that  we can
observe that a person is dreaming,  but here even science
has  its  limits. There  is  no way we can  directly observe
what   another   person   is   dreaming.  As  you   begin  to
remember your  dreams you may  enjoy having your own
private dreamworld. You might also  want  to share some
of your dreams with others  and get their perspectives on
the dream.
     Whether  or  not  you  share  any  particular  dream  is
always your decision. Since  people  in  our society don't
share dreams  very often, it  may initially seem  awkward

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